24th
Lost in interpretation…
It is no secret that guys HATE talking on the phone. In my experience, no matter who it was I was dating at the time (with maybe the exception of the first guy who I seriously think may actually be gay and closeted), NONE of them were phone people. Fine, WE GET IT! Guys, we know you’re lazy and work hard to make it so you can exert as little effort as possible with regards to doing ANYTHING, but for the love of Frank Beamer, Bud Foster, Tyrod Taylor and all that is sacred in the world…
Please don’t use IM to discuss important issues because almost always, the interpretation of such conversations will be erroneous.
Real life example: Once upon a time, I was seeing/talking to a guy who went to another school… he, not being a phone person decided to ask me out through IM during the middle of a conversation. Yep, he just randomly stuck it in there and worded it very vaguely so I thought nothing of it and the way he asked kind of applied to the subject we were discussing at the time so I went on talking about College Football or something. He, being annoyed by the fact that I could be so cold-hearted and brush off such a serious issue called everything quits the next week. FIRST OFF, GROW THE FUCK UP - THIS IS NOT MIDDLE SCHOOL. Nobody should resort to conducting such business over IM. That aside,I’m not gonna lie, I was pretty sad about the situation (as I did have a heart at the time, and I did in fact like him)… but it goes to show, maybe you should just pick up a damn phone, if you can’t be in person to talk about these things. It will almost always save you the trouble of an awkward follow up conversation where apologies or fights will erupt.
Again, guys, aren’t you trying to make things easy for yourselves? Sure, you’re not much of a phone guy… but I think in the long run, the pay off from making yourself clear in person (the decent thing to do) or on the phone (the next best thing to do), will far outweigh the shit that both parties will have to deal with if you had you just acknowledged the fact that you actually have a pair in the beginning.
Remember, emotions and people are hard to read when you cannot see or hear them… and that goes both ways, no matter what end of the phone or computer you may be on. Just grow some balls and get over your fear of the phone already! Thanks.
